What is ERM Coaching?
We think and perform best when our minds are clear, calm and focused. The question is how to get there, especially when there’s a challenging issue that stirs our emotions and we may feel deeply conflicted about.
ERM Coaching promotes clarity, inner calm and focus by creating such inner clarity about the issue, that the stress we feel around specific situations, circumstances or events gets resolved.
ERM Coaching helps free up your mind and thinking to discover your own best way forward. This happens spontaneously once you gain inner clarity, a new perspective or new insights about it.
Rather than stress, you can now feel lightness, deep resolution, ease and empowerment around the topic. It’s not that you have to ‘’work on’ thinking differently about it, or ‘try’ to feel differently about it— you simply are different about it.
You choose the topic, issue or goal you wish to achieve.
ERM Coaching draws upon foundational coaching approaches such as guided self- inquiry, as well as evidence-based tools such as affect labeling and reappraisal which research has shown can significantly lower emotional stress regarding a related topic.
The expected results of ERM coaching are specific to the selected issue, yet often “spill over” into overall greater awareness and ease in everyday life
What can I get from Individual ERM Coaching?
Individual ERM Coaching provides a rare opportunity to transform a personal or professional issue of significance to you — to resolve your issue in a lasting way, to the point that you feel inspired, empowered, motivated and energetic regarding any topic, goal or issue that you currently find stressful, challenging or has been holding you back.
While different formats are available, our signature “Elite” Individual ERM Coaching program delivers quick, lasting results through a “coaching intensive,” 3-4 days of individual coaching completed over a period of 1-2 weeks.
No need to “work on” your issue for months or years—it’s now possible to achieve the desired resolution, ease and empowerment regarding your chosen goal or issue in a relatively short time.
“I had procrastinated writing 4 manuscripts on research projects I completed years ago. The lack of publications was weakening my grant applications and impeding career advancement. After my executive coaching sessions with Dr. Soferman, I finished 2 manuscripts in a couple of weeks.”
— Physician researcher and Instructor in Medicine
Real-life benefits are wide-ranging and include:
- Completing a long-procrastinated task, new business or career
- Completing books or papers
- Successfully navigating career transitions, promotions, interviews or job offers
- Improving relationships, dealing optimally with challenging co-workers, bosses, friends or relations
- Overcoming imposter phenomenon, diversity issues
- Greater self-confidence
- Feeling, as clients often say, “more comfortable in my own skin”
- Restoring creative “flow”
- Enhancing productivity
- More satisfaction and fulfillment
- Better work-life balance, happier
References:
Burklund LJ, Creswell JD, Irwin MR, Lieberman MD. The common and distinct neural bases of affect labeling and reappraisal in healthy adults. Front Psychol. 2014;5:221.
Lieberman MD, Eisenberger NI, Crockett MJ, Tom SM, Pfeifer JH, Way BM. Putting feelings into words: affect labeling disrupts amygdala activity in response to affective stimuli. Psychol Sci. 2007 May;18(5):421-8.
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Contact Dr. Nancy to explore your topic and find out how ERM Coaching can work for you:
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What Our Clients say….
Leveraged Promotion Offer
“Over the years, I’ve had a number of offers to Chair a department at another university, which would have officially been a promotion. The coaching helped me sort out what I really wanted, and spurred me to leverage the last offer for a $50k raise to stay in my current position. I’m glad I didn’t take a position I wouldn’t have been happy with. I continue to be well-supported and successful with my research.”
—Senior Academic Physician and researcher
Overcoming Imposter Phenomenon
“I feel good about the interview. You really helped me and I felt empowered. I felt good enough to say I am the real deal and the true academician. They said that I was outstanding in scholarship. I told them, ‘yes, I am a fantastic scientist and I do great work that people nationally and internationally come to talk with me and ask for advice.’”
— Academic Physician, Associate Professor and Researcher
Interview Breakthrough
Before:
I would like to improve how I present myself in interviews. I need to be more facile with responses in a setting where I have neither relationship nor dialogue with the committee. Last year, I had a search committee interview that went poorly.
After:
The interview went extremely well. I was articulate, had solid answers for every question, and felt that I was in flow. I never looked at my notes. The interviewers nodded their heads, and I could tell that we were aligned.
Ziv, we said that it would be a breakthrough if I felt good about today’s interview. I have had many positive feelings and thoughts about that interview. Thank you for your help. I very much appreciate all of your support!
—Professor and Vice Chair of Research, Interviewing for a Chairman position at a leading university
Inner Transformation
“You can’t know what you will get until you do it (i.e. individual ERM Coaching).
I thought, ‘how can I take 30 hours when I’m so busy and overwhelmed?’
“It makes no ‘sense’—until you do it yourself.
“Intellectually I KNEW these things, but to transform it within yourself is the thing and
it’s been extremely valuable to me. I feel like a different person from 3 weeks ago.”
—Academic Physician
Now I am better at just handling things as they happen
“Before coaching I imagined many interactions and conversations that would be difficult or require effort — even before they happened…
“Now I am better at just handling things as they happen — I feel more in-the-moment, accepting of myself and others, with a sense of focus and awareness.”
—Physician, Professor and Biomedical Researcher in academic leadership role
My personal growth has helped my business. We are more profitable….
Things are going well and I definitely feel more stable and happy inside.
My business partner commented that I handled a difficult decision today with more clarity and truth than I would have done “normally.”
My personal growth (from the coaching) has helped my business as well. I am more clear and direct, which helps in leadership, sales, public speaking, etc.
We are more profitable, and at least some of that I attribute to this work.
— Owner and CEO, Award-Winning Building Renovation and Design Company
I feel more confident and grounded in who I am. Issues from the past evaporated…
What I have noticed since the coaching sessions is that I relate to things in a less nervous or concerned way. My actions are more confident and grounded in who I am. This is clearer since the sessions–a greater maturity.
I’m a pretty confident person, but that is the area strengthened—as if there had been some subtle block under the surface, with that removed the confidence is greater.
The effect was very immediate. Since then the new paradigm and clarity is there.
Both issues that we worked on during two sessions were old issues from my past. They were not a bother on a conscious level, but through the sessions it became clear that they did have an influence on my confidence and clarity of thinking. These issues from the past evaporated. Since the sessions I have felt more at ease and comfortable within myself.
The main thing to me is that I feel much more in touch with myself.
— 60 yo CEO and Owner, Brokerage Company and Community Leader
I’m working less, for the same amount of money…..A shift in my paradigm.
I was very stressed out by work, clients, computer not working, etc. I felt I had to constantly work at getting clients and having enough income. I felt so much pressure to have so many clients to be able to afford to do x, y and z that I want. Now, I don’t worry anymore and it just works out. The clients are still there. It’s like I’m working less, for the same amount of money. It’s been a shift in my paradigm of thinking—an opening of the limits.
— Private Practice, Clinical Social Work
It gave me courage …..
The session went very smoothly and was really productive. It left me with a sense of clarity regarding my behavior towards confrontation, especially with those who have a strong personality over mine. I gained clarity about it, and what I don’t like about it, which is aggression and humiliation.
(After the coaching,) I felt empowered and energized. There was still some anxiety over my financial problem, but I felt calm and positive. Somehow I knew I can handle this problem.
Knowing the root cause of my fear has helped me act and resolve my problem differently from the way I used to do. It gave me courage to approach a person that I swore I would never go to, with good results. The coaching also helped me become more determined to succeed.
— Owner and CEO, Clothing Manufacturing Company
Personal and Professional Success
Personal coaching with Ziv is a unique and powerful experience, combining …deep consciousness from his years of spiritual development and mastery in accurately diagnosing complex challenges from his years as a business professional.
Ziv probes to the depth, guiding in a profoundly insightful and thorough way that gives lasting transformation.
A relatively short investment of time with Ziv has consistently served me as a crucial “pit stop” for getting back on the road to personal and professional success. I heartily recommend coaching time with Ziv to anyone seeking holistic and useful insights to complex challenges.
— President, Management Consulting and Research Firm
Business Initiative
Before the coaching, I was having trouble getting myself to do the business aspects of my photography work. I was discouraged and lacked energy. I would make a list of things to do, and it seemed so big I’d feel overwhelmed and not start.
After the coaching ….I didn’t feel overwhelmed and…I really accomplished a lot. I put on a gallery show of my photography, took photos and wrote text for a TV spot, and took photos and wrote text for a website—and got a web person to do it.
I’m pretty amazed that I could do all that—I feel really good about it!
— Free Lance Photographer
Turned disaster into a magical and fruitful collaboration…
Ziv coached me through a mistake we made that almost cost us our biggest client and would have been disastrous for our company. His wise counsel on how to proceed, what to say and how to approach and deal with the anger of our client not only saved the relationship, but turned it into a magical and fruitful collaboration, full of trust which continues to prove itself over time to this day.
I have nothing but thanks for you, dear Ziv, and wish that many others will get from you the same high quality and wise instruction as I received myself, and due to which my company was saved from major damage.
With much feeling of respect,
— I. Z. General Manager
The Whole Issue got “closured” and the depression … got totally fine.
You helped me a lot in the coaching conversation about an unfortunate incident–the fraudulent theft of some valuable property of mine– and actually, since that conversation, I went out of the depression that had totally flooded me…it all got totally fine.
And, no, I didn’t need to go back to the recording. On the contrary, when the conversation ended up – the whole issue was complete and closed (“closured”) !!!
BTW- I was so amazed/astonished from your ability that I would like to continue to get coaching from you from time to time.
— Owner and CEO, Real Estate Development Co.
My mental and physical energy have increased……
Before the coaching, anxiety and lack of energy slowed down progress (in my life and business.) Since the coaching, my mental and physical energy have increased. Sleep has been more deep and refreshing than before. I feel great.
I am more focused, more direct, and more spontaneous. I spontaneously asked my employees how we could clear up old deadline reminders that have been present for months. On the spot, I spontaneously reasoned a path to resolution, and provided a clear path for my employees to follow to reach that resolution.
— Owner and CEO, NY Law Firm
What Our Client’s Say About Ziv:
“He’s unbelievable, he’s very gifted—amazingly facilitative.”
— Owner and CEO, Non-Profit PR Company
What is so effective for me (about coaching with Ziv,) is going deeply into the issues, and making the invisible visible.
— G.C. University Professor
Ziv always made me feel comfortable with his ability to “see into me”. At numerous places I would be stuck on a question, unable to answer a question he had asked repeatedly, and I would finally say so. He would then suggest that perhaps it was something like so and so, and he would be exactly right, leading me to an “Aha” experience about the issue.
Initially, when I was unable to come up with an answer to a question, I worried that I was holding up the progress of the coaching. Ziv never seemed impatient, however, and I later thought that he was all the time just gauging my progress on a subtler level and waiting until he could see I was ready to move on…the questions seemed to be just a way of keeping me occupied while the real clearing was taking place.
— Systems Engineer
Greater Happiness and Fulfillment
The coaching has helped a great deal with helping me put things in perspective and helping me to see how I might be putting up blocks to my happiness without realizing it.
I was more able to look at my entire life in a more objective and authentic way seeing for the first time some of the myths I had created, and how they were a source of my unhappiness.
I learned how I could initiate more in life and get back a tremendous amount of fulfillment. Going through the coaching … made a wonderful difference in my entire life, friends, work, health everything.
— Teacher and Educational Director
Restoring Calm, Joy and Openness
I felt like my anxiety was taking over my life and I was at one point almost unable to cope with it. Now I feel a lot more settled in myself and open to the unknown. I feel much more joy and bliss in my heart.
I am feeling more connected to myself and more loving towards myself and others. My boyfriend and my mom have both noticed that I am doing a lot better.
I definitely appreciated insights from Ziv and felt like he was really great in helping me understand myself more.
— Performing Artist
Overcoming “Midlife Crisis”
My issue was so deeply buried I didn’t know I had it. However, having gotten in touch with the feeling of it in a concrete way and releasing it, I just feel overall lighter, happier and more easy about everything. I feel free from … those negative emotions.
My wife has remarked on several occasions that I seem so light and happy since our coaching session.
I’m feeling much more like the person I always thought I was. …The results I received working with Ziv I could never have predicted. I’m very grateful.
— Writer and Successful Business Owner
Accelerating Progress
Ziv is brilliant and intuitive and has a range of tools…..(that) are very effective in assisting one to gain resolution regarding very deep issues that have influenced one’s perception and behavior. I made great, progressive and powerful progress in my life!
— CEO and owner of Quality Control company
Overcoming Divorce
I can’t emphasize enough my appreciation to Ziv for how my previous angst has disappeared.
— Social Worker and psychotherapist
Writer’s Block Overcome
Ziv’s skillset is masterful — he is open, accepting, kind, and he has a terrific sense of humor. He helped me release fear about writing a book that I was holding myself back from writing. After completing coaching with Ziv, I wrote the book and had fun doing so!
— Clinical Family Therapist, Artist, Author
Happier Marriage
My husband is a beautiful man, but I wasn’t as appreciative (of him) as I am now. I used to get very mad at him—anger that came out of nowhere. We used to fight and we don’t anymore. It doesn’t happen. He finds me more accepting and he is happier. Life is beautiful.
— Licensed Psychotherapist
Family Relationships
Things are very good overall. I’ve been enjoying my relationships with husband and children, with very little of the dis-ease that accompanied them in the past.
I have continued to grow in appreciation of my children’s independent choices for their lives, free of the regret I felt in the past about it, and I see that they are happy, which is the most important thing. I genuinely feel much lighter about this now.
The greater ease in my relationship with children and with husband has continued (through the year.)
I would say I am overall a happier person now than I was before the coaching — quite a bit happier. I feel lighter and more relaxed in general and in my relationships with husband and children.
The most influential part for me was insights from the coach. It helped me see the issues from a different perspective that seemed reasonable and over time I was able to adopt this perspective.
— High School Teacher and Meditation Instructor
Overcoming Stress, More Marital Happiness (from the client’s wife)
He was stressed, always tense and anxious. Nothing we tried was helping. (He also couldn’t sleep and had seen many doctors for it.)
Now he sleeps normally, and he is happy—even being a house-husband. He cooks, washes the dishes, grocery shops. We have fun together now.
In the past, he could never be in a social group—now we sit with friends at a restaurant and he’s cracking jokes and having a good time.
It’s such a difference—he’s a completely different man and we’re so happy now—
I really benefit from this! I’m very grateful for the coaching.
— Wife of Humanities Professor
More Open
People have commented that I’m more open and social.
(Before the coaching) I was closed off from others; I didn’t allow myself to express my feelings, even to myself… That has changed and I’m much more willing to open up to myself and that’s enabling me to be more open with others.
— Engineer and business owner (wanted to relate more deeply to others)
Equanimity
I understand more about how I think about the world and how I relate to it. This has influenced the decisions I have made … and also how others influence or impact on me.
This has given me greater understanding and tranquility about the issues I face, taking the emotion out and allowing me to examine the issues with equanimity.
— Academic Medical Doctor and Researcher